1/23/12

Pin Up of the Day: New England Patriots Cheerleaders

Well, its official. The New England Patriots are getting a chance at redemption against the New York Giants, who they lost against at  Super Bowl 42 just a few years back.  I'm a diehard Pats fan... Who will you be rooting for this year? 


1/22/12

Queers Land: New Queer WebSeries on YouTube


Queers Land is a new queer webseries to check out on YouTube - Click the link, show 'em some love.


About "Queers Land" The Series

Queers Land is a light hearted tongue in cheek mocumentary web Series starring The Fagtastic Rhys Emmett Rathbone & Dyknamic Leah Pellinkhof showing the hilarious side and the delicate hearts of the beautiful unique and diverse people that make up the colours of the rainbow pride flag

In this hellarious Series the Comic Duo play dual lead roles in six different story lines. Drag Queen & Choreographer, Hippy Lesbians, A country dyke and her homophobic brother, Ultra Attractive Queers, an actor in the closet and his Agent and Bisexual emo teens. Follow them as they pursue of their dreams, hopes and ambitions, Often funny, occasionally heart breaking and always Queer

1/19/12

Book Review: "Transition" by Chaz Bono

"Transition" by Chaz Bono




book review by Cynthia Rodriguez


Yes, your favorite, friendly, gayborhood A.D.D pain-in-the-ass book reviewer is back! Sorry for the six month hiatus. I'll try not to let that happen again. Okay, moving right along...


So I wish I had known about, and read Bono's other two books "Family Outing", and "End Of Innocence" prior to getting my hands on "Transition". I felt like I was watching a movie sequel without catching the original. And I hate watching sequels without seeing part one, and two, and...ten, etc. I understand that it's not necessary in this case, but I'm still interested, which of course is a pretty good indication that I enjoyed this book.


I must say, I feel like it truly takes some major cojones to really put yourself out there in the public eye, and open up with such a tell-all story such as "Transition". I highly commend Chaz for it. No doubt, it is a courageous act, and not just in the actual physical transition itself but for sharing it with the whole world. You can tell how hard-core honest he is with his experience. Both the good, the bad, and everything in between, especially when it was all so recent at the time. The only thing about that I am curious about is how his family, friends, and then partner feel, or felt at the time knowing it was such an expose on not just himself, but everyone around him. In a memoir like that, there is no changing the names to protect the innocent, and the guilty. There is much name dropping. Certainly not in a malicious way, but just at times I'm sure it was painfully honest. I wonder if there were any of that, "I can't believe you mentioned that about me!" going on from someone talked about in the book.



One thing I have to mention before I go on is I couldn't help but think that she did sometimes suffer from what she calls the "poor little rich kid syndrome". I was torn. I realize she did obviously go through A LOT with this whole ordeal, but at the same time I thought to myself, "I'd seriously consider giving up my left tit for your kind of life." Traveling, traveling, traveling. Being a recording artist/rock star for fifteen minutes. Growing up with that kind of fortune, and fame. It's better than collecting unemployment. Okay, po' person bitterness aside...


I most definitely walked away from it with a much better understanding of what a trans person must go through. I won't say I'm some kind of expert now because I read his book about it. Like he says, it's different for everyone. Like everyone else, everybody has their own path. Meaning I won't go around telling every trans person I know, "Hey, I know exactly what you're going through because I read Chaz's book!" I'd say that would be pretty darn ignorant.


It also concretely confirms my own sexual gender indentity once, and for all. Meaning that at one point in my younger life, (as I've shared this with few people), I too once thought about transitioning. This was more in my earlier, developmental years. This was before I even knew what the word "transition" meant, (in that context), before EVERYBODY knew what it meant. I don't even remember that word used in the 80's! Now everyone talks about it, or at least has heard of it.


I actually shared with my girlfriend not too long ago, (yes, I have one of those now, thus my hiatus), using the book as an example. I told her, "He said he never wanted his then "her" breasts touched during sex. That it didn't feel right, natural, or good." I believe this was the clincher for me. Personally, being that although I wish I would have been a little more endowed, I know for a fact I enjoy my breasts very much, and I like them being enjoyed by someone else too, so I was like, "You know what? I LOVE being a woman." I never felt those things he did, so I know I'm in the right body, as imperfect as it may be, it suits me just fine.


I'm glad I never acted on those feelings when I was younger. (Not that I would have been able to afford it anyways), but this is exactly why I must say I have mixed feelings about some of our "transgender youth", especially since I personally know of some that have felt the same way, and it turned out that it WAS temporary. A phase. Not saying this applies to everyone, but I know it happens. Just my own belief but I feel that taking the hormones and actually physically transitioning should not be done until a person is at 18 years of age, when they would be considered a "legal" adult. I HAVE seen the documentaries on transgender youth, and I know it's a very real issue. Not disputing that fact, however, that's where I stand on that.


I attended a trans health conference a few years back for my then job, and it was also very enlightening, and educational. I feel like I still had many questions on the subject. More than what I came in with. I certainly want to learn more in order to erase any unnecessary fears, and ignorance I know I still have, including the fact that I am still in disagreement about unisex bathrooms, although there seems to be more, and more of those popping up in places, especially like in Philadelphia where I had my first experience with a unisex bathroom, and felt like I was in an episode of Ally McBeal.


I really don't like the idea of sharing a public restroom with men. Biological OR Transgender males. I have to admit, it makes me a little uncomfortable. I've always looked at a woman's public restroom as a safe haven of sorts where women (unlike men) usually travel to in flocks, but not just for it's original purpose. It's also a temporary escape from the official social gathering waiting outside it's doors. It's a place for the 5 minute gossip about the evening, where your femme friends touch up their make-up, where you can ask a total stranger (another woman) if she has a spare tampon, and if you're lucky, occasionally have that drunken, slutty moment at the local gay club where you end up making out with someone in there you just bumped, and grinded with on the dance floor. All of the above, not so much possible in a unisex restroom.

(A little post book update, the book itself ends with Chaz getting the top surgery, and being with his then girlfriend Jenny. I believe now they are not together anymore, and he is going for bottom surgery.)


I know I totally digressed as usual, but Chaz really does touch on almost all of these things in the book. This is just my take on it. I like to think that is part of what these types of books do. Crack open wide some dialogue.




11/28/11

It's time.

8/31/11

Can You See Me? The Importance of Lesbian Visibility


My name is Geraldine Joosten and I am a lesbian. Who there did I scare you? You must have thought that lesbians were mythical creatures sometimes talked about and never seen.

Recently I have felt more and more invisible in the world. Lesbians these days seem ignored and forgotten about. Where are we these days? Has the world forgotten about us?

Being a journalist and writer I decided to do research into these issues and find out if other lesbians felt the same they did. So much so it was decided that there should be a book on this issue.
Inspired by the amazing lesbian essay books of the 1990’s and the fact that there are many amazing bloggers and writers out there whom all have their own views on the issue, it quickly became clear that the book on Lesbian (in)visibility should be an essay driven project.

It asks the question many lesbians have been asking in the last few years: “WHERE ARE WE?”

Where are we in the media, in TV shows, in the news in LGTB projects, at Gay Prides, on the work floor?

Why are lesbians so invisible? Why are the 2 stereotypes (male sex fantasy or unwanted fat screaming angry dyke) still how we are seen?

How this lack of visibility affects us: Who are the icons out there for us? Does it make it harder for girls to find themselves without many easily accessible role models? Why is there such a disbalance between lesbian and gay visibility on TV, the media and the magazines. Why are gay men more accepted (in TV shows, films, articles in the media. Why do people automatically think of/talk about gay men when the issue of gay rights are brought up? Why do celebrities only link themselves to the male gay rights organisations?) Why do people still think that lesbians can’t have “proper” sex. Why is it still allowed to insult lesbians on TV shows/in the media? Why are bi girls hip and lesbians not.

Have we worked hard enough for our right to be seen? Has feminism helped us or held us back?
What should we do? What do we need?

Several girls from all over the world will write an essay about what this means to them, what they are missing, what do they want to change and how has it affected them. As it is all aspects of lesbian visibility everyone can bring their own take, talk about their own feelingsregarding lesbian visibility. It’s open to many interpretations and they are all valid.

We are still in talks with publishers -but it is certain the book will be out mid next year. We want the book to have a universal feel so it will speak to lesbians from New York to Berlin, from LA to the Netherlands.
We are still looking for more women to be involved in this.

Are you a blogger, writer or simply inspired to join in? Or do you have an opinion you feel should be included? You are welcome to get involved in any way.

Lots of love,
Geraldine

8/15/11

Jessie J: The Girl You Need to Know!!


Recently there has been a surge of faux bisexual girls. The sexy girls that claimed to be bi to promote their movies, albums, TV shows. But as of late there hasn’t been a true women loving bi chick out there in the in the music industry. (No, not Lady Gaga either. She only does it in her head, remember.)

Until now: step forward lovely Jessie J.
Open about her sexuality from the day she stated out, Jessie's girlfriend even starred in her first music video: “Do it like a Dude”. Jessie believes in total honesty and speaks her mind about everything.
She is a breath of fresh air in an industry filled with fake and secrets.
The British singer states: 'I’m not afraid to say I’m very comfortable with who I am and I love who I love.'

Here is some of her material and interviews:

“L.O.V.E” about falling in love with her first girlfriend.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O0q8WRjACCs

Her honest and funny interview with Alan Carr

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9SQEmlFC8Ko

Jessie talking about her sexuality and singing L.O.V.E. onstage

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABwFB2Ru6PA

Jessie telling it like it is.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gPuJBkk_1jw

Do it like a Dude HOT video

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pOf3kYtwASo&ob=av2e

Do it like a Dude acoustic

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vAd3ogzmnl4





8/1/11

What Amy Winehouse Means to Us - Her Forgotten Bisexuality


by Geraldine Joosten

Last Saturday I started on my first proper column for Lesbiatopia. Still, I only fully finished it on Wednesday night.

What happened? Something sad, unfortunately.

Right in the middle of writing it I took a short break and opened my Twitter. The first Tweet I saw made me sit in stunned silence for several seconds: Amy Winehouse was thought to be dead!! Snapping myself out of my shock I quickly sprang into action.

 Was this true?

I turned the TV on to Sky News, Tweeted the journalists I work with, etc. Soon it sadly and tragically became a reality: Sweet Amy with her lovely smile, her beautiful, magical voice, my Jewish sister, would never sing again.

While I was upset, while her fans were upset, while her family wasn’t even informed yet, the media set the wheels in motion: coverage, questions, speculation, opinions. The usual carousel that follows a celebrities death was played out. Facts were stated before her tiny body had even reached hospital.
In the days that followed the story continued and more and more people gave their opinion. At the same time her family spoke and shared their feelings. Strangely it feels as if we barely know anything, even after being told a lot.

Now Amy has been cremated and has hopefully found peace at last, let’s looks at what this special woman has meant to us. The lesbian community.

First there is the obvious: her music. Who hasn’t laughed, cried or made out to one of her songs? Who hasn’t sang “Valerie” at lesbian karaoke night?

But there is more. Even the press, at this moment, forgets to mention it.

Amy was openly bisexual and wasn’t afraid to show it. Even in the early days of fame she wasn’t quiet about it. She talked about finding women sexy. How she had sexy girls tattooed on her body because “I like pin-up girls. I'm more of a boy than a girl.”

And how after a sambuca she just lost her inhibitions and gave in to her desire for girls. She wrote her song “Addicted” about loving to be with a certain girl and sharing her weed with her, but not wanting the girls boyfriend around or sharing her weed with him.

She publicly shared a hot night in with a model with Amy suggesting that they play games using a pair of glow dice. On one dice were actions such as 'kiss', 'hug' etc and on the other dice were parts of the body like 'neck' and 'belly'.

Then that Blake person filed for divorce on grounds of Amy cheating on him with women and told friends she had been with lots of girls in the past. Amy never denied this.

During her much publicised stay on St Lucia she revealed even more of her bisexual side. Hooking up with girls, and even breaking up a lesbian couple by hooking up with one of them. When the other girl caught the pair in bed Amy casually asked her to join them for a threesome. Then there were pictures published of Amy with yet another girl sweetly making out in a hammock. She confirmed the affair and for a while looked happier then ever.


As the media didn’t seem to understand Amy asked a friend to confirm that she was bisexual. Amy told the press: “So what? I like girls as well. I have had relationships with other women but that doesn't mean I don't still love Blake. There is something about being with a woman that is very satisfying. I don't care what people think about me being bi - I do what feels good.”

Her friend continued: “There is nothing restrained about Amy's sexuality. She doesn't hold back and says what she feels. She often talks about other women. Her favourite is Cheryl Cole, who she really fancies. Most women can appreciate another woman's beauty but Amy definitely takes that to the next level.”

It’s a shame the straight as well as the gay media have largely ignored or forgotten about Amy’s coming out. Amy could have been a beacon for the GLTB society. She, like Lady Gaga now wouldn’t have been quiet about everything going on. Maybe if we had welcomed and not ignored her she would have been more cherished and protected then she was.

Amy could have been so good for us, if she had had her chance. She wasn’t brave. She did what she thought was right. She went with what she felt and didn’t care what people thought. This is what we can all learn from her. Be who you are, follow your heart and be true to your feelings. Actually. To have done this in this day and age means that: Yes, Amy WAS brave.

7/31/11

Tonight!! Uh Huh Her in Costa Mesa, CA with Maniac and We Are / She Is

Comprised of members Leisha Hailey, most known for her role as Alice in The L Word, and Camila Grey of the lo-fi indie group Mellowdrone, Uh Huh Her prepares to bring the hype to the Orange County music scene at the the small yet popular venue, Detroit Bar. The indie/synth/rock duo is on their second tour since their release of their brand new second EP, Black and Blue, and is currently writing and recording for their second album due next spring, NOCTURES. They have just finished a residency in Las Vegas, NV and are ready to hit up a couple California coast shows before returning to their hometown, Los Angeles. 

On tour and sharing the stage with UHH is Maniac, a vibrant, indie/pop group native from Australia. Since their formation in September 2010, Maniac has done several US and Australia tours and have made about a dozen self-produced music videos for their fans. Opening this highly anticipated night is the energetic, OC local alternative/dance duo We Are / She Is. Formed in August 2010, We Are / She Is have since recently had their single "Barlights" featured on The Real L Word along with successfully wrapping up their first west coast tour. 

Uh Huh Her, Maniac and We Are/She Is will be at Detroit Bar on July 31, 2011. Show starts at 9pm. You can buy tickets at: http://tktwb.tw/j9oeK9

7/28/11

The LT Family: Meet Geraldine Joosten

My name is Geraldine Joosten. I am a lesbian, a writer, a comedian, a freelance journalist, a gay rights activist and drag king living in Holland. I am also Jewish.

That’s a lot, most people think. But I don’t stop there, I also sing, act and run a news site for British comedian David Walliams.At the moment my main focus is writing my new book, a sexy musical lesbian drama set in the 1920’s and my internet comedy show “The Mad Gerald Show”. A show about filthy rich dandy Lothario Doctor Gerald Damien M. Eshugener (played by moi ;-)) a debonair man about town. With his posh title and big bucks he managed to buy the title of Doctor, but it isn’t certain how much he really knows about psychiatry. He does know women though, and lots of them. Getting them on his couch to make them pour their gorgeous little hearts out seems to have a miraculous effect on his love life. What his wife Rachel thinks of all this is another question. Gerald is a snub, rude and thinks he knows everything. Does he really …? I write the scripts, act and edit the shows, so it’s a lot of work.

Still, I was desperate to write for Lesbiatopia. Why? Because I have a lot of opinions that I would love to share with you. A few years ago I wrote columns for Lavender News a new sort of Gay and Lesbian news site I had set up with like minded pals. We made quite a big splash at the start, but had to fold again less then a year after the launch due to lack of funding. This was really sad and knocked me for six for a while. Still the good thing is that I discovered that I loved writing columns and that I wanted to share my opinions with others. I hope to be able to do this here and am really looking forward to sharing with you all.

Geraldine

www.Geraldin.co.uk
www.MadGerald.co.nr

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